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Author Rick
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Content Almost lost my Son: I am very sorry about the loss of your daughter. The pain cannot come much worse when you know you can make it right for her, but the drugs have completely taken over her life. My prayers to you and other family members. I almost lost my Son from the period from 1989 to 1993. When his grades started slipping, and he would be sure to get to the mail box before we could, we were never aware of conferences scheduled by school authorities and therefore were blind to the problems they were seeing. My son refused to do his school work, was staying out way longer than he was allowed to, and on many days just sleeping in. He had always been an energetid young person, blessed with a good brain and potentially unlimited future. All of sudden we noticed things were missing from the household. An old cash register that his grandpa had given him, a diamond necklace that I had given my wife, and various other electronic valuables from the household. Our son told us he was working, but never could produce a paycheck stub, and if we would check the business at his supposed working hours, no sign of him at all. He barely graduated from high school with the lowest grade point possible for passing. Still hopeful, we bought a used car for him and sent him to a local univercity. He barely attended classes, never got one credit, and my wife and I repeated our errors (enabling), by sending him to two more universities or junior colleges.Eventually, caller ID became a reality, and our long distance phone calls were all recorded on our bill by date/time, and duration. Using the public registry at the local library, we were able to obtain addresses associated with the variious phone numbers. In checking these addresses at night, we found our Son's car sitting there, in the worst part of town you could imagine. We were scared to even be there. Eventually, we were receiving calls from the "dealers" demanding payment of certain amounts of dollars, or our Son would be harmed. At this time we started finding tin foil which had been burned and various "pipes" used for smoking something. We suspect it was marijuana, crack cocaine, and heroin. At this time, we asked him to move out, and paid his rent on a run down trash apartment. The ultimatum came when his car was taken as collateral by one of the dealers until he could pay the cash for the drugs he was involved in. We took all the phone numbers and addresses and met secretly with a local drug abuse task force in private.. We delivered all of the phone numbers, names, and addresses to this task force. About 2 months later, there were several simulatneous raids on the addresses we had provided to them. As a result, about 13-14 dealers were arrested, tried, and placed in various prisons, with varying terms to serve. The effect of these four years of hell were terrible on my wife and I. We were not able to sleep and I was suffering from epileptic siezures from no sleep and a military related head injury. My job performance was at the bottom also, just scraping by and making many mistakes. My wife and I were scared at the prospect of one of the dealers finding out who "narced" on them, so I requested an out of state transfer rather than go on with an identity change and starting my life over as someone else. Now, in 2006, and beginning in about 1997, our son is now suffering from an incurable disease brought on (we beleive) by the drug usage in his earlier days. He is 33 years old now, not able to work, and is supported 100% by the social security checks of my wife and me. We don't know if this will ever end, It appears now as though the excessive use of the various drugs from the late 1980's to early 90's have ruined his health, confidence, and the ability to perform in any capacity in any form of employment. He is on state disability for a food allowance and for his medical needs, which helps us a bit financially. If I had it to do over again, I would have placed him in a military school at the first sign of drug usage. We tried rehab, but he told the entry counselors that he had no intention of quitting marijuana or alcohol, or any thing else he was using. In essence, our son's drug use ruined his life, ruined our lives, and all of this seems like it now is permanent with no end in sight due to his incurable illness. w

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Member Discussion Forums Administrator Mon 27 Nov 2006 11:04:37 PM MST
re: Member Discussion Forums		 Rick Tue 28 Nov 2006 6:27:49 AM MST
re: Member Discussion Forums		 dirtmandad Tue 28 Nov 2006 7:11:41 AM MST
re: Member Discussion Forums		 Syndi Tue 28 Nov 2006 7:19:41 PM MST

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