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Title re: It cant all be blamed on dealers
Created Monday, Oct. 19, 2009
Content I agree with you 100%. I know as a high school student, I have a few friends that do things like that and they are my friends so sure while I don't want them doing drugs or dieing I don't want them to go to jail either. From my experience its not the dealers faults. I have been with friends that were looking for there hook ups many times and when even drove over an hour to get it. EXAMPLE> One night I was ridding around with some friends and they asked me if I wanted to get high and I told them no.... my friends except me for who I am and respect my decisions. As were driving around town, one person in the car asked who has (name)'s number? On the phone with (name)'s they ask “do you have any tonight?” The answer was no so the caller gives the name of another person who lives in town. We stopped in to see this other friend who I had no idea was a dealer and the guys ask him the same question“Do you have anything tonight?” The answer was again no. Frustrated the guys ask “ Well do you know were we can get some then?” This time the answer was yes. (name) gave us the phone number of a guy he knows in a town about an hour away from home. The phone rings, some one answers and again the question is asked, “do you have anything tonight?” With a “yeah” for a response and the jot down of an address we were on our way. About an hour latter we pull up to the address and the deal was done. This all being said just to say this my point is once people get hooked or just pressured into trying it they will go to incredible lengths to get what they WANT. Not even once have I ever been “Pushed” by a dealer into buying anything its always been my close friends who would try to get me to try stuff. Even trying things as a young stupid teen a few years back I never payed for anything. So if you teach your kids wright, talk to them often, and just get to know the people they hang out with before they start to hang out that will help with the struggle to get teens away from drugs. Set goal with them. Don't let them have to much extra money. Help them manage what money they may have. Let them know “hey your cell phone bills is due again at the end of the month.” stuff like that will help. No I'm not a parent and no I don't know what its like to have children but being a child and knowing that if my parents tried just a smidgen harder I don't think I would have ever had the time or money to try drugs. The lack of knowledge is what gets people, if you tell your kids or better yet show them what will happen to them if they do drugs then it will help there judgment on weather or not they want to try drugs. After everything I have said, keep in mind that no matter how hard you try to keep your kids drug free, there will be friends trying just as hard to get them to try drugs. The most important thing is to teach kids that they don't want to do drugs because if they do WANT to do drugs then no matter who or what tries to stop them, they will try that much harder to get what they WANT. Just like a guy in a wheel chair, you tell him he cant walk not because he doesn't want to but because you say he can't and he will try until he dies to walk. Now take the same man and tell him that walking much like staying clean and drug free is the best thing for him, give him details about why he would never want to be in a wheel chair, tell him how it will benefit him to be able to walk and not be in a wheel chair and he will do everything in his power to make sure he does not end up in one. Also telling someone is not good enough anymore. We have so much going on that we have to plan out full days in advance to know what all needs to be done. So drop your kids hints and give them constant reminders. Use the 5 W's Who are you going with? Where are you going? When will you be home? What will you be doing at given place? And Why are you going? As a parent you should know where your child is at all times. First off they are your responsibility until they are at least 18. So if anything happens to them its up to you to explain who what where when why and how. If you don't know these details it makes you LOOK LIKE a bad parent. So if you want to keep your kids drug free and look like the good guy when your kid grows up and understands why you have done what you have done then take my advice and help your child the way you know how. JUST TALK. Thats all it takes a few minutes a day, week, month. What ever just let them know what they need to know to make an informed decision about drugs because believe it or not when it comes down to it... its still there decision. Provide the knowledge and they will provide the NO!

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It cant all be blamed on dealers Jimmy2time Mon 19 Jan 2009 12:06:47 PM MST
re: It cant all be blamed on dealers		 Ashley Mon 19 Oct 2009 8:57:54 AM MDT

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